Relationship issues for solos and singles

The Challenge: How to find a partner willing to be equal. 

Many Solos & Singles these days are wanting long-lasting relationships with more equality, communication, stability and a deeper connection than their parents and grandparents had. This is especially true for 21st Century women. Research shows us that where-ever women have experienced equality in education and employment they are unlikely to settle for the one-down roles for women in traditional relationships. So, Yes! Chemistry is essential, but it's not enough to sustain a fulfilling long-term relationship.

A revolution in relationships began in the 1960s when the divorce rate began to skyrocket.

Availability of 'The Pill' gave women options to choose if, when and how many children to have which freed them to train for and follow other careers and to be financially independent. 

We are now into the 2nd generation of that revolution.  

The immense pain for partners and their children from escalating relationship breakdowns since the 60s has triggered a wealth of research, including what are the factors in partner selection that lead to resilient, long-term, fulfilling relationships ... We now know it It takes more than the passionate sexual attraction of 'falling in love' to achieve happiness-ever-after. We can be passionately attracted to some very unsuitable people:

Fulfilling, long-lasting relationships also need skillful communication; mutual respect; equal voice; similar values & interests; financial competence; mutual admiration; a special sense of connection and chemistry.  

There are more Singles in the 21st Century than in any previous century ... 

Whether it's in a country with a man-drought, such as NZ, or a man-flood, as in Asian countries, it makes no difference.  All over the world in developed & developing countries, there are more single, child-free men and women between 20 - 40 than at any other time in planetary history.  Yet 20s to 40s are the prime years of fertility & historically have always been the 'most-married' decades for both men and women ... so the old belief that passionate romantic love will lead to happiness-ever-after needs to be up-dated for long-lasting, fulfilling 21st Century relationships.

Let's unpack what is Essential & what is 'Desirable-but-not-Essential' for you.

  • Are there any repeating, self-defeating patterns which have been preventing you from finding long-lasting-happiness with a compatible partner. 

  • Are you choosing on Desirable factors and ignoring your Essentials and wondering why your relationships don't last?

  • Find out more: Book a Consultation and Request a free copy of Checklist for a Soulmate by Email


Checklist for a Soulmate

A Manual for Solos & Singles about the research-based factors to consider in forming long-lasting relationships in the 21st Century.

Yes! It takes more than Chemistry!

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checklist for a soulmate

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