Singles Consulting

In their 21st Century quest for a Soulmate...many contemporary Singles are wanting relationships with more equality, communication, stability and a deeper connection than their parents and grandparents had.

  • Let's find out what is Essential & what is 'Desirable-but-not-Essential' for you.

  • Are there any repeating, self-defeating patterns which have been preventing you from finding long-lasting-happiness with a compatible partner. 

A revolution in relationships began in the 1960s and the divorce rate began to skyrocket. We are now into the 2nd generation of that revolution.  The immense pain for partners and their children from relationship breakdowns has produced a wealth of research, including what are the factors in partner selection that lead to longterm, fulfilling relationships ... It takes more than 'falling in love'.

There are more Singles in the 21st Century than in any previous century ... This surprising statistical fact was the subject of my MA research & thesis. Whether it's in a country with a man-drought, such as NZ, or a man-flood, as in Asian countries, it makes no difference.  All over the world in developed & developing countries, there are more single, child-free men and women between 20 - 40 than at any other time in planetary history.  Yet 20s to 40s are the prime years of fertility & historically have always been the 'most-married' decades for both men and women ... so the old belief that passionate romantic love will lead to happiness-ever-after needs to be up-dated for long-lasting, fulfilling 21st Century relationships.

Checklist for a Soulmate 
is a manual for singles that I supply for free as an email attachment: Request a copy by Email

For Singles who want a long-lasting 21st Century relationship: Yes, chemistry is essential, but it's not enough to sustain a fulfilling long-term relationship.

We also need skilful communication, mutual respect, equality, similar interests & values, financial competence, mutual admiration & a special sense of connection.


I have had over 30 years experience in general counselling with adults & as a relationship consultant & communication coach for couples.

Fees: $100 per session for couples,   $80 for individuals:   If these fees are beyond your budget please discuss this with me. I am willing to negotiate an affordable fee. . . .  Payment due at the end of each session, or by arrangement. Payable by Direct Credit, Cash or Cheque - No Eftpos facilities.

Appointment times: Normal business hours; after-work Monday to Friday; or weekends.

For appointments phone or text • 027 254 9180 • 09 478 9181, or Email

Venue: 142 Stapleford Crescent,  Browns Bay,  North Shore, Auckland, NZ, 0630